What’s More Important?
Every now and then, when I get a bit overwhelmed, I have to take a step back and tell myself that you can’t do it all. At least, not all at once.I have suffered from depression in the past, related to my second pregnancy. It really threw me for a loop; I had no idea that I would ever be one of ‘those people.’ I was always of the opinion that I was strong, needed no one for anything, was an island. Was the person others went to for help, not the other way round.
And then I got depression and found myself unable to move off the couch, let alone take care of a toddler, let alone go to my full time job, let alone build up my business. I needed help and fortunately for me, it was at hand. My family stepped up and saved me – quite literally, I believe.
Since those days I frequently stop to do a mental health check on myself. Am I getting overwhelmed? Am I building up to another crescendo of trying to do too much too fast with too little help? These little conversations with myself help me to see my situation from a few steps away. I am able to see that, no, I don’t NEED to get that draft done, I don’t NEED to say yes to that article or that seminar. I can sit back and relax a little bit.
This is especially helpful when I’ve spent two weeks in a row getting absolutely nothing done, thanks to my kids getting sick and me swiftly following. At this stage in my life and my business, I can afford these extended gaps in productivity. I don’t make anything like a living from this business and I don’t expect to for at least a couple more years – until both my kids are at school full time, in fact.
Until then, my writing, editing and speaking business gets the leftovers of my time. I love hanging out with my work. But I must put my family and my own health first, and that lesson was hard-won.
So I will get to those articles I’m writing for Mouths of Mums and Our Children Australia.
I will get to the second edit of my Runaway series book one for early chapter book readers.
I will get to the end of my Cinderella rewrite for romance lovers.
I will write more of the short stories I have plotted out in my head for my anthologies.
I will publish the nearly-complete manuscripts on Long Distance Parenting and Informed Parenting.
Every day I get to sit at this computer and write is a blessing. And each minute gets me a little closer to my goals. I’m so grateful for the country and society I live in, a place that acknowledges the hard work of single parents and provides enough money for them to survive without working, and to prioritise the raising of their family while their children are very small.
This is not the time to get into the limitations of that help; right now I’m just grateful I have any. This may change…!
Please be patient with me. I want to bring you amazing writing. And I will, just as soon as I can.